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I am faced with a problem, I have been seperated from my husband for 6 years. I am sick and he didn't want to deal with it. Now with every new person I meet I face the when do I tell them question. I have Lupus, which is an autoimmune disorder and is not contagious but does affect every aspect of my life. The loneliness is deepening the depression but watching person after person walk away after they find out about the Lupus deepens it just as much. So do I push forward to try to have a life or just stay hidden away so I dont' get hurt over and over?
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Thanks all, it gets very discouraging. I came here for just words of support and friendship! I have posed the same question to my sons, 13 and 18, and both tell me that they'd never leave someone over a health issue so maybe there is hope for the next generation! But I take pride that I was able to raise two compassionate and loving men who look beyond the obvious. As far as Lupus killing me, I have acceptted it will likely be the cause when it's my time, but better to know what's going to get you then wonder.
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Push forward. Only a fighter will make it in this world. The thing with Lupus is that people have died from that and most men don't want to pursue a relationship with someone that won't be with them for a long time. People like me don't try to get attached to people for fear that they will leave me. It's THEIR problem, not yours. Don't blame yourself. It's not like you asked to have Lupus. Live your life, true love will come to you.
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don't hide. just live. your special someone won't be able to find you if you hide. you'll know their special when they want to love you no matter what. tell them first off about your sickness that way you don't have to waste time on them if their not worthy.
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Sorry to hear of your men misfortunes. Their loss!!! Keep at it, it will happen. You will meet someone who, they too, have had to deal with a difficult health situation with someone in their life and be understanding and compassionate. I know many people are looking for friendship and companionship in their lives. Women need to feed their soles. It's hard for men to see this. Best to you.
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